Joseph Goldstein – Insight Hour – Ep. 178 – The Wisdom Of “No”

Joseph Goldstein explores the nexus between thought patterns, sense pleasures, renunciation, addiction, freedom, and the wisdom of “No”.

This dharma talk from October 24, 2012, was recorded at the Insight Meditation Society and originally published on Dharma Seed.

“So often in spiritual practice and in our path and in spiritual scenes, we emphasize the yes. It’s the yes of acceptance, the yes of openness, the yes of receptivity, the yes of fullness of experience. So this is all an essential part of our practice. This yes is often the antidote to self judgment, self criticism, to contraction, to limitation. It’s like we’re learning to open, we’re saying yes to experience yes to the world.

But there is also a wisdom in ‘no,’ recognizing that some things are not skillful, are not helpful, they’re not leading to happiness or to our well being. And in these times, we can practice saying, ‘no thanks,’ I’ll pass on this one.” – Joseph Goldstein

In this lecture, Joseph:
  • Encourages us to examine the content and nature of our own thoughts
  • Maintains that our actions are conditioned by how we think about ourselves and how we think about the world
  • Advocates for cultivating wholesome thoughts and letting go of unwholesome ones.
  • Considers the rewards of renunciation
  • Emphasizes the importance of saying “no” on the spiritual path
Listen to more from Joseph:
In the search for liberation, we must explore the nature of our existence. Joseph investigates the wisdom of impermanence in Insight Hour Ep. 2.
There are deeper levels of truth about reality. Joseph explores different ways of freeing the mind by understanding the habits of preference and the emptiness of thoughts in Insight Hour Ep. 41.
It’s possible to smile at the antics of one’s own mind. Joseph offers responses to questions about selflessness, shame, cravings, and more in Insight Hour Ep. 111.
Metta practice can penetrate deeply. Joseph explores how love, kindness, gratitude, and friendship can revolutionize our lives in Insight Hour Ep. 117.