Ethan is joined by author and meditation teacher Susan Piver for a conversation about bringing the wisdom of Buddhist practice into our relationships.
The Four Noble Truths of Love
Susan shares how Buddhist teachings have helped her navigate her relationships with others. She and Ethan discuss Susan’s book, The Four Noble Truths of Love. The two explore ways that we can apply The Buddha’s core teachings to our most intimate relationships.
“I found myself relying on Buddhist teachings to help me understand how my heart worked and how my connection to other people worked, especially to my partner. I found teaching after teaching that supported me to love more. To care more and feel more empowered in a relationship.” – Susan Piver
Quest For Stability (12:15)
We look at the kind of expectations we have about our relationships. How do these expectations and grasping for stability contribute to our own unhappiness? Ethan and Susan talk about the different ways that our spiritual practice factors into our relationships.
“Instability is not the problem. It is refusing to go on the ride that is the problem. A great partner is one who will sort of turn to face the ride with you. To sit shoulder to shoulder, instead of squaring off.” – Susan Piver
The Bad News Is The Good News (25:35)
For a lot of us, waking up through the path of Buddhist practice involves crushing our expectations and fantasy about reality. Susan offers the silver lining that comes when we take a more realistic approach to our lives and relationships. She and Ethan talk about taking a balanced approach to our relationships as they evolve.
“Sometimes you meet someone and it is like waking up on a different planet. Like, what the hell just happened? I feel so much for this person and I am so excited to be around this person. Suddenly it is like the whole world is different. That was not fake, the issue is that does not last. It changes, but that doesn’t invalidate the joy of falling in love.” – Susan Piver
Moving Forward In Shambala (39:15)
Susan and Ethan talk about the challenges that the Shambala community continues to face in the fallout of allegations against senior leadership. They talk about addressing abuse, the evolution of traditional structures and staying true to themselves.