Francesca Maximé – BHNN Guest Podcast – Ep. 35 – Valentine’s Day Special with Ken Page

Relationship expert Ken Page joins Francesca Maximé to talk about love, relationships, and Ken’s book, Deeper Dating.

Ken Page is a renowned psychotherapist, leading Psychology Today blogger, Huffington Post blogger and author of the bestseller Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy. He has been featured in O, The Oprah Magazine, The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, and more. Page has led hundreds of workshops on intimacy and spirituality for thousands of participants. He has taught at Columbia University, the Omega Institute and the Garrison Institute. Learn more about him at

Vulnerability is Authenticity 

Francesca asks Ken about the concept of “core gifts” from his book, Deeper Dating, and how we can shift our vulnerabilities into strengths. Ken talks about how embracing our vulnerability can lead to us to healthier relationships.

“If you’re thinking, ‘I gotta lose that 20 pounds before I go out to date,’ stop thinking it, go out there. I promise you there are people who are going to be sexually turned on to you exactly the way you look now.” – Ken Page

Codependency and Generosity (17:00)

 Francesca inquires about how to avoid self-sabotage in relationships and how we can work with the inner critic. Ken goes on to talk about how codependency is the gift of generosity that has not been fully honored.

“For people who are looking for love, instead of approaching it like, who am I attracted to and who’s attracted to me back, ask yourself, does my soul feel safe with this person?” –Ken Page

The Inner Mentor (32:00) 

Ken leads an exercise called the Inner Mentor Process, which involves visualizing the “you” you’ve always dreamed of being. Grab a pen and paper to follow along!

“What does it feel like to be behind the eyes of that you? The you you’re meant to be. Taste it. Just let yourself taste that you.” – Ken Page

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